It is easier for parents to tell older children that they are getting a separation, as they will understand the situation. However, explaining to younger children the same thing is much harder. It gets worse when they see their parents fighting with each other in court. No matter how hard you to try to conceal your anger at your spouse from your children, they come to learn about it anyways.
In litigation, if that is your chosen divorce process, children get dragged into arguments and court battles regardless of your attempts to keep them away. They will get to witness the ugly side of their parents and it will leave a permanent scar on their personality.
How Litigation Affects Children?
The constant back and forth insults and shouting matches may change your child’s personality, making them react angrily and rebel against you. They may even go into deep depression by secluding themselves from activities they once enjoyed, friends, and family. Do you want to see your child locked up in their room?
Other ways, your child may go off the deep end include failing class, taking up drugs, drinking alcohol, and hanging out with the crowd. Do you know who they will blame for their drastic personality change?—You! If you are getting a divorce, choose a method that will not highlight what both of you hate about each other, at least not in a public arena like the court. Instead, choose divorce mediation as your method of separating.
Divorce Mediation—A Better Way to Separate
Divorce mediation eliminates all the yelling, insults, and arguing, as it promotes a harmonious and calmer way to settle disputes. In the privacy of the mediator’s office, your partner and you can discuss and resolve issues without your children present in the room to see and hear your problems with each other.
Through divorce mediation, both of you will be to reach an acceptable and logical solution, one that both of you agree on. When everything is done and dusted, you will be able to meet each other gaze when meeting up for your child’s class performance. Your ability to handle each other’s presence will positively influence your child’s personality.
Each time you see one and other, you won’t break out into arguments and seeing their parents get along after divorce will help them see a positive side of divorce. If you constantly fought with your partner after the divorce, your child would have a difficult time to maintain relationships when he or she grows older.
If you want your child to avoid the emotional and psychological damage that comes with divorce proceedings done the conventional way, choose divorce mediation. Contact 1 Source Mediation to go your separate ways without placing your children in an awkward and unfavorable position. You want your children to grow up in a healthy environment and you will only get that with divorce mediation, as no other method comes even near it.